"I just make stuff I'd wear myself."
That's how she described what she did. And for the better part of two decades, the only jewelry I wore was made by her. I mean, when a best friend makes stuff you love, why even look elsewhere? I used to have fun making jewelry sometimes, but my beads and stuff got buried in the basement over the years. I never even thought of getting it out once she started making stuff.
"It's tempting when I'm making earrings to keep adding stuff and make them really long, but then I always find that the ones I wear the most are the super simple ones. It's hard to hold back and keep them simple, but I always like those better." She was right. Some of those are still my go-to can't-live-without favorites.
Did I ever tell you how I got my start in business?
It was 1990. In the years that followed dropping out of art school, I'd worked several strange and non-creative jobs. Always threatening to "do something with my art" but never quite discovering what it was I wanted to do with it.
At the time I was painting on whatever I could get my hands on. Mostly I was getting my hands on plant pots, picture frames, driftwood - weird stuff. Sometimes I'd get my hands on a neat old piece of furniture or two. People said, "you could totally sell those. You should start a business."
Yeah, a business. With a business license. That would be practical. I should totally do that.
Practical wasn't exactly my strong suit, though.
That's where she came in. My smart, practical, grounded - and talented - friend Dani.
Her amazing style sense: copied by everyone yet always unique. And when she couldn't find exactly what she wanted to complete an outfit, she'd invent it. It started with a few beads, a few earring hooks, some neat looking string. She started making more and more, she couldn't stop. People said, "you could totally sell those." She said, "we should start a business."
"Let's start it as a partnership. I'll sell my earrings, and you sell your painted stuff. I'll do the paperwork and organizing stuff, and you can design our logo and anything else we need."
Ok, that sounds like a great idea.
We needed a name, "like a word that means nothing, but sounds cool." She came over one day with a book of city names and a bottle of wine.
Ok, that sounds like a great idea.
We got through nearly the entire alphabet (and bottle of wine) with no hits. Then we got to U: Urbana. That's a neat word. Where is that? I don't know, like, the Midwest somewhere.
"Let's call it 'Urbana'."
Ok, that sounds like a great idea.
And we became proud owners of our very first business license.
Fun fact: when she told her mother the name of our new business, she just laughed. "Why in the world would you name it that?" She explained our naming criteria. "Well, dear, I'm afraid that word doesn't mean nothing to you. You were conceived in Urbana, IL."
So much for that idea. We still thought it was a neat sounding name, and continued along in our denial about it being a real city. Or two.
We did a few street fairs, even Bumbershoot. Be nice to street fair vendors, by the way, they have a really hard job. Too hard for us, I'm afraid. We wimped out after one season. I found a few neat little shops to sell my painted stuff, and she found others to sell her jewelry. Less schlepping, no worrying about rain leaking (or dumping) into our displays. I designed advertising and packaging, and she filled out our taxes. It worked out great for a couple years.
I found bigger things to paint (rooms in people's homes) and would do graphic design work when I could get it. I started licensing designs with a couple local companies. She became a mom and wasn't making much jewelry. It was time for Urbana to become a sole-proprietorship, and the word "Artstuff" was tacked onto the name (a word, by the way, that she had made up). She would still make jewelry once a year to sell at my holiday open house; my regular customers and all our friends looked forward to stocking up on earrings and necklaces for gifts and for ourselves.
Eventually Art Licensing overtook the rest and became the sole focus of my business, and when I incorporated, the "Urbana" got dropped and "Ltd." got added.
My friend Dani was the reason I ever started being at all serious about my art as an actual business. The motivator, the paperwork-explainer and filler-outer, the driver and run-arounder, the tax-doer, the teacher. Long after we were business partners, she worked as an agent for a bit and landed me a few magazine-illustration gigs. The ways she influenced and inspired my business over the years go on and on. From selling earrings, painted plant pots and driftwood mobiles to Art Licensing and everything in-between, she has been part of it all.
She was taken way too soon. You know when the Universe hiccups and something wrong happens that was never supposed to, ever. But it did. All these years later, sometimes it still doesn't feel real.
One very minor detail of that loss didn't come up until much later: the first time a now-irreplaceable earring slid down the drain. The dramatic and violent screaming, sobbing freakout finally subsided after the entire stupid pedestal sink had been ripped apart and the tiny trinket pulled from the thick, hairy/gooey drain-trap muck (thank you, Husband Guy).
Even faced with that stark reality, I still wasn't looking at other jewelry yet. I'd avert my eyes or simply not focus on cute earrings in shops and boutiques; maybe it was just force of habit. The thought of making jewelry myself was equally foreign. It was 5 years later when Elizabeth suggested our afternoon at Shipwreck as a fun "halfway between us" get-together. Hmh. Beads. I wouldn't have thought of that.
Ok, that sounds like a great idea.
I had a blast playing with those beads on vacation year before last, and this last month I packed up all my goodies to make more stuff while out at the cabin. I started making earrings. "Just stuff I'd wear myself." Literally - I was just making a few pair, for me.
But I couldn't stop.
These pretty little pressed glass beads from India were just too fun to play with. I got color-drunk, like when I would get a new box of crayons as a kid. They sort of remind me of beach glass: there's a real organic feel with the bubbles and irregularities. And it was fun to pair them with some of my more bling-y beads and components.
I just kept making more.
And more.
She was right, it's sort of hard to hold back and keep from adding the kitchen sink to every pair. But they needed to be something I would want to wear every day. And they are - there are just way too many for me.
So I'll be selling them in my shop. And I'm hoping this gives me an excuse to make more, because it's really, really fun for me. There are just a few pair there now, but watch for more very soon.
I'm hoping that some of you might actually like to wear the same things that I would, because that's all they are, really. Not crazy fancy. Just little stuff I'd wear myself.
Not precious.
Just pretty.
Some little everyday trinkets, subconsciously inspired, I'm certain, by the super-simple elegance and grounded practicality of someone who helped shape me as a creative businessperson from the very beginning.
Jewlery my friend Dani created is not only unique and cool like she was, but now precious and irreplaceable. I would never try to do what she did, but I can keep doing what I do: influenced, inspired, and in a way, hopefully honoring her "if-I-can't-find-something-just-right-I'll-make-it-myself" way of doing things.